And what is muroo-ah?The scholars of fiqh – may Allaah have mercy upon them – have established what it is in the Book of shahaadaat (bearing witness).They said: it is doing that which beautifies him and adorns him and avoiding of that which would dishonour him and disgrace him.And this is an expression which is general (in its nature) – everything which will beautify you in the eyes of the people, and adorn you and which will be a cause for your being praised, then this is muroo-ah, even if it is not from the acts of worship.And everything which is opposite (to this), then it is something that opposes muroo-ah.Then (the author) strikes an example for this, by saying that (from muroo-ah) is having noble manners. So what are noble manners? They are that the person is always forbearing, that he is forbearing when it is the occasion for forbearance; and that he acts with firm resolve when it is the occasion for firm resolve.And therefore the Islaamic Religion has come being justly balanced between forbearance – by which rights may be lost – and acting with firm resolve, which may sometimes lead to oppression.
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The noble scholar, Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al ‘Uthaymeen rahimahullaah stated:
And it is befitting for the student of knowledge that he be a person of beautiful manners and temperament, constantly (a person) of happiness, constantly (a person) of relaxedness – because (this) was from the characteristics of the Prophet sall Allaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam which Allaah created to be in his natural disposition and with which He blessed him.
And He said about him:
And indeed you (Muhammad) are of exalted manners, the manners of the Qur-aan.
Soorah al Qalam (68) aayah 4
From his characteristics was that he was constantly (a person) of joy, plentiful in smiling – may Allaah’s salaat and salaam be upon him.
And there is no doubt that if a person is always joyful and plentiful in smiling then the person who meets him will feel happiness from (meeting) him.
But if you were to meet a man, frowning and gloomy, would you be happy due to meeting him? No. Therefore my brother, be always happy, plentiful in smiling, with a bright and cheerful face.
And therefore from the characteristics of Eemaan is that you meet your brother with a cheerful face. And know with the knowledge of certainty that if you possess this characteristic, you will be a person who is calm and relaxed, (both when) standing or sitting, in your house and in the market. And be constantly happy with your brothers, with a cheerful face and plentiful in smiling.
(Quoted in Wasaayaa wa tawjeehaat li tullaab il ilm p49 of Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al ‘Uthaymeen rahimahullaah, translated by Nasser ibn Najam)
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WIth regards to the student of knowledge staying away from gatherings of laghw, Shaykh al ‘Uthaymeen rahimahullaah commented:
As for his (the author’s) statement: turning away from gatherings of futile speech…
Then laghw (futile speech) is of two types:
i) laghw which contains no benefit and no harm
And ii) laghw which contains harm
As for the first type – then it is not befitting for a person who has intellect to allow his time to disappear in this because it is (nothing but) loss.
As for the second type – this is something evil; it is forbidden for him to spend his time in this because it is evil and forbidden.
And it is as if the author was taking the interpretation (of this word) upon the second meaning – which is the forbidden laghw. And without doubt, the person is not allowed to sit at gatherings which contain that which is forbidden because Allaah, the Most High, says:
And it has been revealed to you in the Book that if you when you hear the aayaat of Allaah being denied and mocked, then do not sit with them (those people) until engage in speech other than that.
(If you were to stay with them) then you would be just like them.
Soorah an Nisaa (4) aayah 140
So it is obligatory upon whoever sits in a gathering of munkar (evil) to forbid that evil. Then if the situation is rectified, that is what is desired. And if it is not rectified and they (the people) continue upon their evil, then it is obligatory upon him to leave (them).
This is in contrast to what some of the common people falsely believe, saying:
“Indeed Allaah’s Messenger sall Allaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam said: Then if he is not able (to change the evil with his tongue or hand) then let him (hate it) with his heart.” And I hate this evil in my heart.”
And (yet) he is sitting with its people.
So it is said to him:
If you truly were someone who hated it, you would not sit with them – because it is not possible that a person sits in a gathering whilst hating those people in it.
As for something which you hate and (yet) you sit (there) through your own choice, then your claim of hating it is not correct and true.
(Sharh hilyah taalib il ‘ilm p47- 48 of Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al ‘Uthaymeen rahimahullaah, translated by Nasser ibn Najam
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al ‘Uthaymeen rahimahullaah said:
Adorning oneself with qanaa’ah (contentment) is from the most important of the characteristics of the student of knowledge – meaning that he contents himself with that which Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, has given to him.
And that he does not seek to be from the ranks of the rich and those who live luxuriously – (this is) because you will find some of the students of knowledge, and other than them, wishing to be from the ranks of the rich and those who live in luxury.
So (this person) burdens himself with spending on food and drink and clothing and furniture and then he carries the burden through (taking on) debts. And this is an error.
Rather upon you is qanaa’ah (contentment), for indeed it increases the Muslim (in good).
(Sharh hilyah taalib il ‘ilm p30 -31 of Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al ‘Uthaymeen rahimahullaah, translated by Nasser ibn Najam, checked by Abu Talhah Dawood)
Shyakh al Uthaymeen rahimahullah said:
Adorn yourself with fine personal behaviour, such as abstinence and forbearance and patience and humbly submitting to the Truth – because the station (of being a student of knowledge) necessitates this, that the student of knowledge has abstinence from that which is in the hands of the people and abstinence from that which is linked to looking at forbidden things.
And forbearance, such that he does not hasten towards punishing if someone treats him badly.
And patience upon the harms which occur by way of that which he hears, whether it be from the common folk or from his peers or from his teacher – so let him be patient and anticipate the reward (from Allaah).
And humbly submitting to the Truth, and likewise showing humility to the creation; he humbly submits to the Truth, meaning that when the Truth is made clear to him, he yields to it and he does not seek anything else to take its place.
And likewise towards the creation; so how many a student has opened doors to his teacher which had not occurred to him; and do not belittle anything…
And it is befitting for the student of knowledge that he stay far away from acting frivolously whether that be in the way he walks or in his dealings with the people – that he is not plentiful in laughing uproariously which (is something) which kills the heart, and removes dignity. Rather he lowers his wing, being one who has the refined manners which are befitting for a student of knowledge.
(from Sharh hilyah taalib il ‘ilm p26 – 27 of Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al ‘Uthaymeen rahimahullaah, translator Nasser ibn Najam, checked by Abu Talhah Dawood)